Being at the right place at the right time...

Happy Friday, peeps!!  I am in the office till noon today, Liv is still sick.  I tell you what this flu sucks ass!!  Just when you think you are out of the woods, BOOM, the fever is back and higher than ever!!  So much for the $75 Tamiflu!  Oh well, you do what you have to, to get your babies healthy.  As I sit here and type, the mommy guilt takes over.  Seeing her look at me this morning, with those big, brown eyes, broke my heart! She wanted her mama.  BUT...daddy needs to be there for her too.  And thankfully, he was able to take the morning off.  He works in the mortgage industry and they have been SWAMPED and on mandatory OT.  I won't lie, the OT does pay for all my clothes and our vacations. :)  My hubby is one hell of a hard worker.  He goes out of is way to make sure we have all we need and some.  Thank GOD, we fought hard to make our marriage work.  I am one blessed wife and mommy!

Ok I so went off track there. :)

On Monday, Liv and I went to Old Navy.  Yes, I know, what the hell was I doing shopping, after all that I did on vacation.  Well I had a $30 off of $75 and a $20 rewards coupon, so I HAD to go!  As we began to check out, the guy helping us said, "I remember you two when you came in right before your vacation."  GUILTY, yes we were just there not too long ago!  But...we needed last minute stuff.  I swear I am not a shopaholic.  Well....maybe???? :)  I told him, "yes, we just got back and decided to do more."  I told him that Liv and I love to shop together for good deals.  At this moment, he said, "I love to shop, just not right now".  I assumed he meant because he was working in retail.  I was wrong.  He told me that he had recently gained 30 pounds and just wasn't happy with himself.  At this very moment, I just loved this guy!  The look on his face was one I had seen on my very own, many times.  He looked so defeated.  I told him I knew exactly how he felt.  I let him know that I used to be 115 pounds heavier.  He then told me that he too, had lost 130 pounds!! How freaking awesome is that!  I told him how amazing I thought that was.  He said, "yeah but I gained back 30".  Boy did I know how that felt!!  He said he had hit a plateau.  Boy do I know how that sucks.  I told him that I had recently lost some weight and over the course of 2 years, I had dropped 25 pounds.  This got a little spark back in his eyes.  It was like he instantly knew, we were meant to meet.  We started to discuss our journey's and the similarities.  He was an identical twin and when he was heavy, his brother was thin.  Boy could I relate to this.  Not that I have a twin, but I do have 2 beautiful sisters that have always been thin.  We talked about how hard it is growing up overweight and how people think you should just be able to get over it.  Ummm...it's not that easy folks!  It is just one of those things, that unless you have been through it, you cannot relate.  He talked about how he was a size 44 waste at his biggest.  He had gotten down to a 33 and when he did, people accused him of being anorexic.  Why is it when we lose weight and get "thin" people want to accuse us of being unhealthy?????  This has happened to me at work, in the past few months and to one of my girlfriends, that recently lost some weight.  So we can't win when we are fat and when we get "skinny" we are sick.  Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I told this wonderful guy that today was going to be the start of his new journey.  I told him I believed in him and that he was going to get the weight off.  He got such a huge grin on his face and told me that gave him goose bumps.  He gabbed my hand to shake it and told me how nice it was to meet me.  I told Matt, I would be back to check in with him.  And I will!  I felt an instant connection.  Like he and I could be friends for life.  I gave him my blog address and told him about all of the amazing people on IG.  I let him know how inspiring and motivating you all are.  And it's true!  It's not like FB, where people are more into bragging than encouraging.  IG is all about the positive. As are all of your blogs.  It's a family to me.  I hope Matt is now one of the members....

I think that trip to Old Navy just made me believe even more in the whole. "everything happens for a reason".  I came across IG and all the amazing people for a reason, I started this blog and follow other blogs, for a reason.  AND...I went to Old Navy on Monday, for a reason...
To sum it up....don't forget that everyone has a story and a path they have been on.  Please look at people with an open mind.  I saw on IG where someone made a comment about people posting selfies where they say they have no make-up on when they really do. Here is what I think about that.  To the person posting the selfie, maybe they don't have on make-up.  Well the kind of make-up they are used to.  Maybe they are used to a full face of it and in the pic, they just have on mascara and some lip gloss.  I know to me, mascara and my eyebrows colored in, is no make-up to me...lol!  I don't feel like I am myself without lipstick.  Yep, I can be vain!! And when someone says, "ugh I feel so fat" and they are skinny.  Please don't assume they are doing that merely for attention.  That same person might have an eating disorder like bulimia, anorexia or body dysmorphic syndrome.  SO to them, they do look fat or feel fat.  I think as a society, we are ALL too quick to judge.  I know I work on this daily. I am trying so hard to remember, we all have things we are not happy with.  And please don't assume that when someone is posting a shit ton of selfies and #ootd pics, they are conceited.  I mean I post a lot of pics, but I do it to share with people, my cheap finds or in hopes that my sweaty post workout photo might inspire someone, to go workout.  And I am not going to lie, sometimes I actually look in the mirror and go, "hmmm....I look pretty good today". SO...why not post a pic.  It helps me remember, I DO have good days, when I feel good mentally and physically. 

Sorry that this post has been all over the place.  I hope to get back to my normal blogging routine next week.  I have so much blog reading to catch up on!  I have missed all of you!!!

Have a fantastic weekend!!

Lots of Love,
Lor